Engagement/Divorce

It is SPRING BREAK finally… Of course, I offered to work everyday for extra money. Over the past, few weeks I have had friends ask me “are you engaged yet”, “want to go look at dresses” blah. Blah. Blah. Engagement is a huge decision. It is when a person decides to ask permission from the girl’s father asking if he could take her hand in marriage, treat her with respect, and follow your vows. Although, I know that David and I will follow the Lords plan and eventually will plan a marriage. I just am not in a rush for him to propose. Of course, I had the opportunity to design it on my own and I used my mother’s diamond out of her wedding ring, which is amazing, and it means a lot more to the both of us. My parents were married for twenty-five years and faithfully strong until she passed. I want David to be completely ready and I do not feel that girls should pressure their boyfriend into an engagement or wedding because divorces occur excessively much by rushing. Do people really need to rush their lives anymore that they do during the day? I also have experienced friends who I do not hang out with anymore because of their affairs with other men and only been married maybe 6 months. I love the movie License to Wed with Robin Williams and a new engaged couple through a grueling marriage preparation. Seriously, every couple should go through some type of class just to prepare themselves even if they live together. I would love to do marriage counseling at the church before I said, “I DO”. Most people would think I am crazy but I want something to last forever especially for my daughter and the plenty more we decide to have in the future. I feel that most people who get married do it because they feel it is morally right or because of a money situation such as the three people, I know whose husbands decided to go to the coast guard, army and the navy for more money and better insurance. I understand it is a good idea but is that morally the only purpose to marry. Therefore, it is their decision and no one can change what they believe. I know divorce has risen in the past few years and I think it is a great that churches offer divorce recovery as a small group option. It is also wonderful to meet new people in those situations to know you are not alone. I sometimes wish my father would join a small group just to interact with members who go through these different changes in their lives. Although, my dad is only fifty-two and will eventually find someone I just hope that he keeps the same values like him and my mother.